So what now?

If you’ve been following my story up to this point, you’ll know I was adopted, had some health problems and am in the process of trying to find my biological family, I found out my parents are either full siblings or a parent and child. As I’m sure you can imagine, this wasn’t what I expected. I had no idea what to do next.


When you use the Genesis “are my parents related” utility, one of the pieces of information it provides is a contact email for a geneticist who helps people who have found out their parents are indeed related. I contacted her and did some more looking online.

It didn’t take long before some very kind people reached out to help. I’m not sure what I would have done if not for them.

A lifesaver

One of the people I contacted was CeCe Moore, and I also read Kitty Cooper’s blog , which was really informative. I also messaged her, and before long, I had heard back from both. Thanks to Ms. Moore, I was put in touch with some online support groups, while Ms. Cooper and the people who work with her volunteered to help me figure out my family tree.

It wasn’t that long before I had (potentially) had my biological mother’s name, the community where she lived and a lot of details about my biological family, all of it frompublic records I had the information, but wasn’t sure what to do next.

Where to go from here

Now that I had that information, I had some decisions to make. Would I try and contact her? What if she hasn’t been able to face what happened to her? What if hearing from me really hurts her or ruins her life? What if it would actually be really healing for her? Does she have any children besides me? Is she married? How will this news affect them if they don’t already know she had a child when she was very young? Did I even have any right to seek her out?

I admit I am still somewhat stuck here. To try and get some idea of what my biological mother may have gone through, I asked the mods of a forum for women and men who have been sexually abused if it was okay for me to join as ask for input form its membership,

Pretty near all of them said in my biological mother’s shoes, they would welcome the contact. I’ve taken that as a positive sign to move forward.

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